Memorial Service on Oct 10th

  • 05-09-10

camden_quilt.jpgHelen Connolly knows what it’s like to lose babies to repeated miscarriage. She also has great empathy for others who have lost a baby: whether due to stillbirth, post natal death, inability to survive the IVF process, or otherwise.


Last year, Helen decided to do something to support these families, and to honour the lives of babies who were taken too soon: she organised a special Memorial Day with a balloon release.


Now the service is set to take place again this year on 10 Oct. It will be held in Elderslie NSW (Australia): near Campbelltown, Elderslie is just a one-hour drive from Sydney, Wollongong or the Southern Highlands. So if you or someone you know has lost a baby, and you live in any of these areas, you might wish to attend this special service. A number of us on the committee at PILARI have attended similar services and found them to be very healing experiences, most helpful with our grief.


The purpose of the Elderslie service is to raise awareness of the extent of pregnancy, stillborn and infant loss, as well as to help raise funds for support services. The cost is a $5 donation per person, and additional funds will be raised through the raffle of a handmade quilt (shown in photo). Arrival time is from 10 am, with the memorial service at 11 am. Bring a picnic lunch for after the service and enjoy the sunshine and fresh air.


If you have any questions, feel free to ring Helen directly on 0419 689 775.

Registration form (see attachment below): to let you purchase balloons to be released on the day. (Registration closes 7th Oct -- this is the last day balloons can be ordered)

Map and directions to the service: Curry Reserve, Camden Valley Way, Elderslie NSW

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